Father of the Bride Duties

Father of the Bride Duties- Who Pays for the Wedding?

The father of the bride duties traditionally consisted of dad paying for the wedding. I don’t know the deep history of the tradition, but all cultures have a different take on who should pay for the wedding.

Now days, both both families pitch in to help pay for the wedding. It seems to be a fair deal in my estimation. It’s a good thing that both families share expenses for the wedding and not only the Father of the Bride. If you research tradition, you’ll find this to be true.

It’s a good idea to start off by sharing wedding expenses so the parents of the groom won’t feel like they’ve been cheated. Not that they are but, It can only cultivate a good beginning for both families.

That’s my opinion. We paid our own way from start to finish. My father in-law pitched in and covered the rehearsal dinner and that helped us out a lot. Father daughter traditions continue to evolve as time passes.

Couples that live apart from their parents have tendencies to pay about ninety percent of their wedding expenses on their own. We didn’t bother to see if we could get financial help from Dad. We just planned the wedding we wanted and trusted God to get us through it all.

To be truthful, I really wanted to show everyone, mostly me, that we were independent and established and could survive together as a couple.

It was my first act of showing love toward my wife. I wanted to know that I could take care of my wife with no help from others. Things turned out pretty good.

My wife’s parents and her sister traveled from New York to Los Angeles to attend the wedding. I’m sure that was a major expense for them so we were very happy they could make it. I was able to get discounted rooms because I worked for the Marriott Hotel chain at the time. The employee discounts helped out a lot.

You don’t have to be dogmatic about father of the bride duties and if he should pay for the wedding. You can create and establish your own traditions.

Evaluate your situation and see if there is a way to share the wedding expenses equally. It was the first step we took in our marriage to enhance our relationship. Don’t forget to get a gift for both sets of parents a gift if possible.

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